Throughout my life I have had several different types of relationships. From family to friends, near and far. I have lived in 4 different states and made friends in many places. I am a pretty social person and really enjoy hanging out with friends and having a boyfriend, i hate being alone. I like the feeling and connection of having close friends and having a significant other. Unfortunately, I don't tend to stay single very long because having a significant other is very important to me and I tend to be the happiest when I am in a relationship unless its not meant to be. I jump from relationship to relationship when they do not work out. Until last week I was in a relationship and it was almost a year that we were together. He is very important to me and we lived together so we did almost everything together. I was upset it had to end but it was for the best. My relationships make me feel like i belong and am accepted and am loved.
Both my parents are very active and involved in my life and always have been. They are very important to me and I can't imagine life without them. I currently live with them, as did my boyfriend before we broke up. I also have a younger sister that I am so happy to have. We are kinda close but its difficult because she is 7 years younger then me and has been away at college. When developing friend relationships I tend to only have a few close friends. I have known Danielle since 1987, Kate since 1998, Michelle since 2006 and Laurie since 2008. I still talk to these girls on a regular basis and visit with them whenever I can, three of them do not live in the same state as me.
My mom and dad are wonderful parents and provide for me and give me advice whenever I need it. We talk about everything and they always support me in my decisions. I help them around the house as much as i can. When I didn't live with them we would talk several times a week and had dinner together on Sundays. I'm a family oriented person and love my family, immediate and extended. I crave close relationships and interaction with others. I have three best friends, Danielle, Kate and Laurie that I talk to almost daily and see whenever I can. I see Danielle the most because she does not live that far away. I have lived with Laurie and Michelle before and I really enjoyed it.
As a child it is generally pretty easy to make and maintain relationships, as an adult, it is difficult. Life gets in the way, work, activities, children, etc. There are less opportunities to make friends and they seem less important. In order to maintain relationships you have to stay in contact by talking on the phone, texting, emailing, writing letters, video chat, etc. It is also best if you still get together and interact in person. All relationships involve give and take and communication and honesty. The people I have talked about all love me for me and accept me and enjoy my company. I can't imagine life without any of them and would feel incomplete and be so depressed without them.
Hello Rica, It's so nice to be reading your blog again! It makes me feel like I know someone in my class. I am sorry to hear about your break up. Indeed, humans are social animals and need relationships to survive and develop as matured individuals. The best gift you can give to yourself is to no if the relationship is healthy for us. to many of us aren't brave enough to when the end has come. Be good to yourself.
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ReplyDeleteI am glad we have a class together again! I like it better when we share several classes together as opposed to meeting new classmates every class, though I suppose thats to be expected with the online format. Thanks, i am too but its for the best. It was difficult because there was so much potential in him and our relationship but he just didnt have enough drive to work on himself or put in enough effort in the relationship. It is tough to end a relationship when its unhealthy and I have learned from past mistakes and as much as I hate being alone it is not good for me to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Thanks for your support!
Hello, I love reading others posts because it reminds me of my childhood friends. You are correct with making new friends as an adult. It is so hard because of work, school and life period. I moved a few years ago and I would love to have the relationships I had back home. For now I just make sure that I maintain the relationships I have at home and will welcome new ones.
ReplyDeleteGreat post; look forward to reading more,
Vennetta