Who Am I as a Communicator?

How I thought of myself as a communicator and the results of the evaluation were pretty much the same. They both concluded the same thing. That I am a pretty good communicator, trusting and aggressive listener and debate facts and do not attack the person. I am not comfortable communicating in all situations, which i knew before these assessments. The 2 people i had complete the assessments on me where my sister who is 7 years younger then me and a friend I have know for 2 years and lived with for about 8 months. They both came to the same results that I did. The only difference is that they did not score the same exact numerical value that I did but they scored a numerical value in the same level, except for on the listening assessment where we all said I was in Group 1. I did not find it that shocking or amazing that their evaluation of me was the same as I reported on myself. I am a pretty open book and it is easy to get to know me and 'read' me. I really did not have any surprises. We all evaluated the same results I thought we would.

One insight I gained was that because i am 'empathetic and concerned toward others emotions when listening, that my judgement can be compromised and thus I am too trusting of others' (Rubin, R. B., Rubin, A. M., Graham, E. E., Perse, E. M., & Seibold, D. R., 2009). I found that to be interesting. This will cause me to take what others say at face value and not investigate it further or really read what they are saying. I tend to accidentally let others walk over me at times. I think that in a professional aspect I will have to not worry as much about stepping on anyone's toes and just worry about collaborating together effectively to get the job done.  

Something else I found to be insightful was how we use attributes to (personal characteristics) to explain why someone says something the way they do, especially when it is not typical of their normal schema. For example, a guy I hadnt talked to in over a year because he had commitment issues recently contacted me. He just missed us being friends. I am a big talker and love to text and he didnt used to be too keen on texting a lot. We talked on the phone today and before we said goodbye he said' text me tonight.' I didnt know how to respond or what to think. im like 'say what? u are telling me to text you?' Makes me wonder why... its not his normal (old) behavior.... i have no idea why.  I dont think people will always respond the same way to every situation or interact. There are tons of attributes that will cause someone to act, behave or speak a different way that is not their norm. This will keep me on my toes when working with children and other professionals in the field. There might not always be an attribute to explain why or it might be hidden.